Specializing in Intercultural Couples
Gottman & EFT Models
Couples counseling is my specialty. My work is influenced by the training I received in Emotionally Focused Therapy as well as the Gottman method. Couples work is one of the hardest therapies we provide due to the intricacies of two individuals plus a third component: the relationship. Although it is challenging, I am mostly comfortable with couples from different cultures and backgrounds.
Affairs have many faces: betrayal, self-discovery, impact on the family, cultural influences, and so many others. It happens in all levels of society, even in good marriages. Those impacted by infidelity come to therapy with questions about their partner, themselves, and they make decisions without much consideration. We explore your situation individually and as a couple.
Main issues brought to Couples Counseling
The number one issue mentioned by clients is problems in communication. Couples want tools to communicate better. However, problems in communication is actually a symptom of a rupture in the couples attachment. In therapy, we will not treat the symptom, we will go for the root cause.
Loss of Connection
Many couples who have been married for some time fall in the routine of their relationship and lose interest in their partner or vice versa. They start living an individual life in the same house and things get even worse when their children go off to college. Once they realize this is happening to them, couples counseling is a great way to prevent the situation from getting worse.
Stay or breakup?
Some clients lack clarity about whether the relationship they are in is one that is best for them. It’s very common for clients to want the therapist to tell them what to do. In therapy, we explore you ambiguity so you can best decide which decision to take.
Once a couple is affected by infidelity, it is almost impossible to have the same relationship you used to have before you find out about it. If the couple wants to work through the issue, it is possible to have an even better relationship. It requires work in stages and it may take some time. It is estimated that 70% of the couples who are affected by infidelity are able to work through and stay together.
The majority of my clients in South Florida are dealing with a relationship that depends on an immigration case. Sometimes breaking up is not an option but clients don’t feel safe in bringing this issue up. I offer a safe space for all issues to be discussed in a 1:1 meeting and provide confidentiality to both of you.
Intimate Parner Violence
Most of the time, if the couple is experiencing domestic violence, therapy is not recommended until the violence has de-escalated. Therapy requires self-reflection and when couples are flooded and in crisis, that kind of work doesn’t progress very well. We will discuss this in our 1:1 meeting so you can feel safe to bring this issue up to me in confidence.
“Are you there for me?”
One of the most important relationships we have is with our partner, but sometimes that relationship is not at its best. Not feeling the safety to bring up any issues with your partner is so frustrating. You want to talk about your insecurities, your fears, share decisions, and above all, share your vulnerability. But your partner is not there for you right now. They used to be, but you don’t know why they aren’t anymore. One of you pursues while the other withdraws. You have a negative cycle in your relationship but you don’t know how to break the cycle. Instead, you finger point each other and you argue over stupid things.
The next step is simple
15 Minute conversation
Let’s talk about your case and see if we are a good fit. It is extremely important that the couple feel safe with the therapist they chose to work with.
I am accepting new clients. Currently, I only accept couples in person as it is difficult to work with couples virtually. I have availability after 5:30 PM as well as most Saturday mornings.
Before the first session, you will receive a link to log into my portal and you will sign all documents electronically!
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I pay with Insurance?
Insurance companies do not cover couples counseling unless one of the partners is affected by a mental health diagnosis. Currently, I am not paneled with any insurance providers.
What if my partner is not motivated to attend with me?
This happens. Many partners are not motivated because they have wrong expectations about the session. They think the therapist is a referee and will look to point fingers. Sessions will be most valuable to you if both of you attend.
How long is the session?
The first session is typically 90 minutes. Sessions after that are 50 minutes. There’s no additional cost for the first 90-minute session.